Weekly Overview:

By allowing respect for others who are different from us, we also allow room to honour our own differences. This world's social structure is breaking down because we now live in a global community, and can learn and grow from infinite resources at our fingertips. Because of this, many of us find ourselves lost and confused - without a home base... but this also allows us infinite opportunity to shape ourselves into what truly fits us, instead of conforming to fit into the local community - we can now reach far and wide for people who we can be tr…

Honouring the past helps us to learn the lessons from those who have come before us or from our own past experiences. Seeing the present for what it is allows us to utilize those lessons and understand how to apply them. And preparing for the future means actually acting on the present moment and making the best of it and taking action towards the outcomes we want to see. Take some time today to see if you can find those connections from the past to the present - especially around the choices you are making for the future. …

When was the last time that someone held space for you? Where they were able to sit with your messy thoughts or emotions and just be there for you through it? When was the last time that you were able to do that for soemeone else? What was the setting? Was there a need for alcohol or other triggers to be able to tap into that space? Maybe after a good workout or sports event? Understanding the setting that suits you and being able to cultivate those spaces as you need to is a huge asset to your wellbei…

What's your most recent "high point" lately? Say, the last three days? You may not think you've had a high point - but if you HAD to pick something - I bet you could find a moment that felt good. Those little tiny victories - those high points - are happening every day. If you're caught up in trying to get a big thing accomplished, it's easy to overlook all the steps along the way. Or maybe you don't have a big thing - and judge yourself for it. But those little moments of victory are even more va…

Do you find that you just blurt things out? Or do you renumerate and plan every word - only to never say anything? Both are valid - but not terrilby effective. I find that communicating with integrity involves being solid in your beliefs, planning out what to say for certain things - but then also allowing flexibility and using discernment to know what to say and when it's best to say it. This is where journalling comes in to be an amazing tool - you can go back to check in on what your own beliefs are, and wh…

Today is about practicing the art of taking time to watch and observe a conversation or situation before stepping in - or deciding not to. If you enjoy being loud and opnionated you might not like this one - but it's still a good tool to practice so you know you can step back and just observe first if you choose to. It can be hard to just listen. But you can't really have discernement without first seeing what the reality of the present situation is. And the only way to do that is to observe. Watch and se…

Are you a helper? Do you ever feel under-appreciated? If so, take a moment to reflect on if you tend to act on your own and try to "surprise" people with your offerings, or if you tend to involve them in the process. I've known a lot of givers (myself included) who want to give- and do it in their own way. But without fully understanding the situation, or involving the other person and asking them if your idea is helpful - you may inadvertently be giving forks when they really need a spoon. Think of a f…

We are all so different. How can we have solutions for ALL? First, we need to respect that there are laws and boundaries that are in place. Then there is a social order - whether we like it or not, some people simply have more resources at their disposal to work with to get their way... and some will take advantage of that fact. So, does ALL mean dependant on that social status? or physical boundaries? or does it go by what's been done in the past to bring about the laws? This is just something to think …

Everyone comes with drama and baggage. There's no escaping it. What is your capacity for other people's drama? This directly affects the degree which you are able to maintain a relationship. This can ebb and flow and fluctuate, but generally, some people really enjoy the thrill in the social game of establishing their"pecking order" and success can leave people realizing that it's lonely at the top. Others, walk away and disengage from the drama deciding that peace is more worthwhile than playing the game. Are you at one of these opposite ends? Is life full of action an…

Without a good foundation, what is built after is much less stable and deteriorates much faster. So, before expanding, make sure that your foundation is good and ready to build onto it. What area of your life are you looking to expand? Is now a good time, or do you need to put some pieces into place before you are ready to build further?

Building a foundation reqires creating consistency. There needs to be consideration for all of the outside elements that will be interacting with the structure, and measures are taken to mitigate those outside forces, and create a homeostasis within. A house needs to be built where the elements outside can go to extremes without affecting the comfort and integrity of the space inside. What are the outside forces in your own life that tend to knock you out of your comfort and integrity? Are there people or situations that trigger you to wobble and become unstable? or wear you dow…

Being truly seen - in all honesty - is one of the greatest tools for healing. We are all human. We all make mistakes. And being able to allow this for ourselves, and for others is what allows us to heal and grow from those mistakes. This is not the same as forgive and forget. This is really coming to understand that no one is perfect, that we will get hurt by others, and that we will make mistakes and be the one who is wrong and hurtful too. This is about recognizing that we can't escape this, …

Being able to have agency - the ability to act of your own free will and when you want to - is easy when you're by yourself. Much harder when you're with other people. By being aware of how you work alone, and how you work with others, you can be more conscious of if and how you want to shift things in order for agency to exist - for everyone involved. With the ability to have agency, it helps immensely to be able to feel and to be confident in your abiliites. And having confidence leads to actually p…

The easiest way to build trust in yourself is to start with super small victories - to start with the easiest win possible, so you get that little dopamine hit. Your brain registers that you were able to do it, and it is much easier to have confidence that you'll be able to do the next thing, because you're already in that mindset,and experiencing the associated neurochemicals.

What's the smallest thing on your list of goals? Can you make it even smaller to start? Today - no matter what else you do - tackle that smallest thing first, to get yourself into the mindset that it's possible. ** I got this idea from the easy button from Staples. I was listening to a podcast on how to raise children, and they gave this advice: Get them to use the easy button every timethey do a chore - it reinforces in the mind that it's easy, so there's less resistance to it next time.

Music is the perfect example of how synergy can work - each part playing it's own piece of the melody. Some parts are boring and monotonous, some are vibrant and erratic, yet they are all important and add to the final sound. Professional musicians don't need to practice together to be able to know what the other pieces are, as long as they know their own part. When they come together, the parts mix together and create a beautiful masterpiece. where all the parts complement each other. Today's intention is to find a beautiful symphony and lay quietly to l…

If paths didn't ever diverge, we would all be walking the same path which sounds to me to be pretty boring, and crowded! It's human nature to want stability - and also human nature to want change. It's curious how we tend to associate change as being something "bad". In reality, it's simply a fork in the road. An opportunity for a choice- to stay with the path you're on, or to take a different way. What choice is ahead of you right now? Does your current path feel dull and uninspiring? Is it too crowded? Look a…

You're ALWAYS allowed to do your own thing! And you're always going to reap the rewards or concequences of those actions. But do recognize that it's your own choice. Is there someone in your life who likes to take charge and control what you do and how you do it? Why do you let them take charge? Why do you let them stay in your life? Knowing these things can help you to recognize that you are choosing to comply with them. You always have a choice. My personal favourite is to do things so that they …

We are all just trying to enjoy life. If we can collaborate to achieve this, it's much more likely that we will make it happen. Whatever your goals are, by aligning with the people with similar goals and plans you increase the chances of enjoying your experiences. Even when working with someone who's goals are opposite to yours - you can remember that everyone gets joy from different things, and know that experiencing and seeing that opposite side helps to reinforce and amplify your joy when you achieve your goals. Sometimes it can be nice to realize that when yo…

Your memories are the only ones that you get to experience. Stories, books, movies etc are a way that we can have an understanding of someone else's experience - but it's just that, an understanding - not a knowing. Not experiencing. As such - it's important to make sure that you make your own experience the best that it can be. No one else has the right to take up the narrative of your life. You get to decide what you want your story to be. What steps are you going to take to make sure that your next …

What are your core principles? The "rules" that you live your life by? Everyone is unique and has different priorities, influenced by their life experiences as well as their inner nature. What are your principles? And how do you uphold them? Because we all have different priorities, it's important to recognize that boundaries are important to hold around your own principles and actions, but that it's not our place to enforce those priorities on others. Upholding a boundary involves being clear, consise and taking immediate action when a boundary is crossed. The more often you're able to hold you…

Everything changes and grows. That's the nature of this world. So, it's important to look at things every now and then to see if you're working from old beliefs and patterns, and if so whether or not it's time to upgrade them. A good way to do this is through journalling - and then taking time to read through your old notes and updating or adding to your journal if you've had new insights on things, or if your thoughts have changed completely. One tricky thing about this is that we can not notice when our thoughts are shifting …

A good relationship requires relationship flow - the ability to be aware and change with each other as you grow. Are you ready to handle it if the people in your life change? Do you feel like you're free to change and grow? Being conscious of the direction and speed of growth in yourself and those around you is important so you don't get caught off guard. And communication is key! Asking is the best way to find out. And being able to grow through things together is one of life's most rewarding experiences. What are the way…

Waiting is HARD! But sometimes we are in limbo, and can't do much about it other than wait. This is time that fears and uncertainties creep in and cause us to stress, but this limbo is better used by taking the time to rest and switch gears before the next thing comes along. It's not easy to just cut off the brain and not stress, but if you're conscious of what your end goal is, you can trust that you'll see what needs doing when it comes along. In fact, it's easier to see these things if you're not stress…

What is your legacy?

We all leave little bits of ourselves everywhere we go. What do you leave in your wake? Do you have a long string of jilted lovers who you left in the dust? Or have you built an amazing space where people can gather, let loose and talk and connect with other lovely souls? Something in-between?

Whether it seems to be big or small - we do leave a legacy - each just as important as the other. Think on what you've been leaving behind. And what you plan to leave behind going forward.

Set yourself up…