Follow Through on Boundaries

Learning how to honour your boundaries effectively is not an option. IIf you don't, it will catch up on you and cause harm to you and others at some point. No more empty threats or being a pushover. Today's intention is about learning how to have discernment and effectively communicate about the situation without having to fully shut down or take over.

It can be scary knowing that you are making someone mad.. wondering if it could escalate to violence. Or, maybe it's too easy to get mad - and you go from zero to sixty. Either way, it's a sign that you're not confident in your ability to hold your ground without a fight, and can unintentionally perpetuate fights that never needed to happen. It is possible. Today is the day to practice it.

In the end, it's so much easier to have those conversations right when they happen, instead of having to backtrack after someone gets the wrong idea.

My story:

I am so thankful for the self-help classes I went to where we walked around the room and practiced saying both yes and no to different things. It was fascinating to see how differently my body reacted when I practiced saying yes and no to things I wanted vs. saying yes and no to things I didn't. It really does affect us physically!

I also realized that I didn't ever allow myself to say yes - because "my word was my bond" and I was worried that I'd get stuck in a situation that was no longer fun. Deep down, I didn't realize that I was allowed to change my mind!. I missed out on an aweful lot of good things- and stayed way too long in the wrong situations because of that misguided sense of honour.

One of my favourite quotes:

"The validity of your yes has no merit if you can't say no" - J.A.

Previous intentions on this theme:

• Practice No- https://youtu.be/pKR51GxElsg

• Stand my ground - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oOV04EAVCv4